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How to Handle Peer Pressure: 13 Genius Ways Your Teen Can Get Out of a Tight Spot

by Nancy Reynolds March 18, 2021
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How to Handle Peer Pressure: 13 Genius Ways Your Teen Can Get Out of a Tight Spot – Post updated July 2024

It’s every parent’s worst nightmare. Your teen finds themselves in an uncomfortable situation where there’s drinking, drugs or they’re feeling pressure to have sex and, not knowing how to handle it or say no, they simply cave in.

I get it. Being a teenager is hard. And, as a mom of three, I’ve had enough conversations with my kids to understand how they feel when they’re in a tight spot.

What they don’t want is to appear lame, prudish, or uncool if they say “no.” They don’t want to be rejected by their friends (or boyfriend or girlfriend) or hurt their friend’s feelings. They don’t want to be taken off the invite list. And, they don’t want to be pegged as someone who doesn’t know how to have any real fun.

What they do want is to feel included and accepted by their friends and part of the crowd. And, oftentimes, rather than standing in their convictions (which can be really tough for some teenagers), they succumb to peer pressure at the expense of compromising their beliefs, values, morals, and well-being, not to mention having to deal with the possible wrath of their parents if/when they find out.

Peer pressure is a real struggle for a lot of teens. In fact, according to one study, more than 90 percent of teens claim they’ve been influenced by peer pressure. 

Rather than sending our kids into the world to face difficult situations on their own, we need to equip them with the tools (quite possibly an arsenal) to face peer pressure head-on. 

Here are a few clever tips on how to handle peer pressure, how to put the power back into your teen’s hands, and how to get them out of a tight spot – without losing their “cool factor.”

How to Handle Peer Pressure: 13 Genius Ways Your Teen Can Get Out of a Tight Spot

 

#1 Say “No” Like You Mean It

When the pressure is on regardless of whether it’s to smoke weed, drink, do other drugs, or have sex, oftentimes a direct and assertive “no” can be the best approach. Not all teens have the confidence to stand strong in their convictions. But the good news is, the more they do it, the more comfortable and better they’ll become at it. (Heads up: use this tactic and you might just earn the respect of your friends.) Here are a few strong “no” comebacks:

“Thanks, I’ll pass.”

“Nah, I’m not into that.”

“I just don’t need it to have fun.”

“Thanks, but it’s really not my thing.”

“Thanks, but I can have fun without that.”

How to handle peer pressure to have sex “NO” responses:

“I’m not interested in having sex.”

“I don’t need to give you an explanation. The answer is no.”

“I’m sorry if I gave you the wrong impression. I don’t want to have sex with you.”

#2 Toss in a Little Humor

Let’s face it, some friends can not only be convincing, but they can be downright relentless in their pursuit to get you to try or do something you don’t want to do. Rather than fighting force with force, back off a bit and toss in a little humor to ease the tension. You’ll sound a lot more relaxed and easygoing, but you’ll still get your point across without sounding too stuffy or prudish. With a little chuckle, try saying something like:

“Yeah, and if my parents find out, you’ll never see me again.”

“Dude, you know I can’t handle stuff like that. I’d be on the floor.”

“Thanks, I like my lungs just the way they are.”

“Thanks, I don’t need that stuff to get a little crazy. You know me… I act crazy already.”

#3 A Believable Reason Works Like a Charm

Others will have a hard time convincing you to jump into something you’re not willing to do if you shoot a very logical, believable comeback their way.

“My coach will kick me off the team if he finds out. I can’t take the risk.”

“Nope. I’m planning on applying for internships/jobs next month and since a lot of them require a drug test, I don’t want to take the chance.”

“I have to study for a big test all day tomorrow and I can’t do that after a night of drinking or getting high.”

“I can’t. I’m training for a marathon and I don’t want it messing up my time.”

#4 Blame It On Your “Strict” Parents

My kids know, unequivocally, that they can always use me as an excuse if they’re feeling pressured. Even if they make me out to be the strictest parent on the planet, I don’t care as long as it helps get my kids out of a tight spot.

“I can’t. My parents will kill me.”

“My parents wait up for me. If I walk in stoned or drunk, I’ll be grounded for life.”

“I’d like to hang out, but my parents are making me go to this family thing.” Sorry.”

#5 Use the “I Have Other Plans” Excuse

Your friends are getting together on Friday night and there’s been talk that there will be alcohol there. You don’t consider yourself a prude, but it’s just not something you’re totally comfortable with. Rather than putting yourself in that situation, save face by bowing out gracefully.

“That sounds fun, but my family is visiting my grandparents that night.”

“I can’t. I made other plans with my friends from church (or any club, organization, team, etc.)”

“I can’t. I’ve been invited to a friend’s house to hang out and watch a movie. Maybe another time.”

#6 Use the “I’ll Think About It” Tactic

When you’re feeling stuck and unsure what to say, buy yourself some time by delaying your response. Quite often, if you continue to use this tactic, your friends and/or acquaintances will eventually get the point and stop asking.

“I’m not sure I can. I’ll let you know.”

“Sounds fun. Let me think about it.”

“Maybe… I’ll let you know.”

#7 Toss Out the “I Have Way Too Much to Do” Excuse

Whether you blame your inability to go somewhere on a huge science project that’s due next week, a bunch of chores your mom wants you to get done, or a big math test you have to study for, this excuse is one you should keep in your arsenal when the pressure is on.

“I have a huge test on Monday that I’m not ready for. I’ll have to pass tonight.”

“I wish I could, but if I don’t get my science project done, I’m going to fail that class.”

“My dad is making me help him clean out the garage. I wish I could get out of it, but I can’t.”

#8 Play the Sick Card

Playing the sick card is a great way to avoid going somewhere you don’t want to go because it can’t be disputed. Plus, no one wants to be around someone who isn’t feeling well.

“I’d love to, but I’m feeling pretty awful. I wouldn’t be much fun tonight.”

“You guys have fun without me. I’m going to lay low. I feel crummy.”

“Thanks, but I must be coming down with something. I feel terrible.”

#9 Use the “I Tried It” Excuse

When all else fails, a little white lie just might do the trick.

“Bro, last time I did that, I felt awful. I can’t.”

“That stuff makes me so sick. I tried it and totally hated what it did to me.”

#10 Offer to Be the Designated Driver

One of the best ways to avoid being hammered by friends to drink or do drugs is to offer to be the designated driver. That way, you’re in complete control of the situation and you can confidently and realistically offer a valid excuse why you’re not chugging a beer. (The only downside to this is that making sure your friends get home safely after a night of partying can be a big responsibility – choose which friends you offer to drive carefully.)

“Thanks. I can’t. I’m on DD duty tonight.”  

#11 Create an Action Plan with Your Parents

One of the tricks I used to use with my kids is that when they were at a party or in a situation that made them feel uncomfortable or even threatened, they would text me, (we used “it’s time” as our code words) and I would immediately know that I needed to pick them up. I would also call them so it sounded legitimate with their friends.

“My mom just called. I need to head home ASAP.”

“Hey, I have to leave. Something’s up at home. My mom is on her way to pick me up.”

#12 Make Your Exit

When peer pressure becomes too much or you feel uncomfortable being surrounded by people who are drinking, smoking, or doing other drugs, it might be time to make your exit. You are under no obligation to stick it out, to stay, or pretend as though you’re having a good time.

Find your way to the door and simply leave. Whether you hop in the car and drive yourself home or call your parents, an Uber, or a friend to pick you up, don’t succumb to the awful feeling of being somewhere that makes you feel uncomfortable or uneasy. Remember, your true friends will understand and support you if you decide to leave. Those who don’t aren’t really your friends. Say something like:

“Thanks for having me, but I’m going to head out. I have a lot going on tomorrow.”

“Hey, it’s been great, but I have to run. I have somewhere else to be.”

#13 Find New Friends

Of all the clever ways to handle peer pressure, the best way might be to simply find new friends. 

It’s been said that real friends don’t make you do things that are not in your best interest or that are dangerous or wrong. And, it’s true.

Real friends (and boyfriends/girlfriends) won’t pressure you into taking part in risky behavior. Real friends won’t ostracize you if you back out of doing something you don’t want to do. Real friends will understand and support your decisions, even if they don’t align with theirs.

If your friends, acquaintances, boyfriend, or girlfriend is continually pressuring you to engage in activities that simply aren’t in your comfort zone, it’s time to seek out new friends (or a new boyfriend or girlfriend) who respect you enough to understand and support your values and principles. 

Tell us! Do you have other tips on how to handle peer pressure? Share your advice and tips in the comments section below!

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5 comments

Aarti Rajdev March 23, 2021 - 2:02 am

Practicing what to say and how to say it with your parent at home.

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Nancy Reynolds March 27, 2021 - 9:13 am

Yes! Role-playing is a great way to prepare your teen. 🙂

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heart4minds March 7, 2022 - 12:38 am

My kid’s friends avoided drinking after she shared she’d been traumatized by an alcoholic family member. “Go ahead – but i just don’t want to be around that ever again.” They cared enough to find other ways to have fun. That actually saved my kid a lot of pressure herself.

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Kate Merrick June 7, 2022 - 3:21 pm

My favourite is a code word that would never normally be text that indicates they know they are in the wrong but need immediate help. Foul language is a massive no in my house so any text with it in is a red flag for me to extricate my child, no repercussions The plea for help is enough of an acknowledgment they are in the wrong and punishment enough.

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J L December 29, 2022 - 5:58 pm

I don’t have kids but I have a niece and 2 nephews who are high school age. I may be 44 yrs old but I remember what it was like when I was a teenager. All the same pressure but like 10 billion times worse cause of mobile phones and social media. My niece’s mom had told me this guy she was hanging out with texted her mean and rude things and pressuring her. She was afraid of him. I told her, “ Hey next time I’m with you Face Time with him.” She did and I said hey nice to meet you, I tell all the guys this, you mistreat her and her dad will pick up whatever pieces I may leave behind. Go have fun!” She was relieved has never heard from the kid since. Say it in a joking manner, but also serious enough the kid knows you’ll follow through in protecting your kid. True friends would one not do that or two figure out you want respect you give respect if you want to stay friends. You also need to be relaxed enough to where your kid’s friends can come to you with a problem.

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